Why sleeping alone was the great, unexpected gift



There are exceptions when I do share a bed, or sleep elsewhere. Who doesn’t love the heft, bounce and wedge of a luxury hotel mattress, dressed in white, starchy sheets that have been washed by someone else?

Occasionally, I will stay the night at my boyfriend’s place. Having sex is something we enjoy more than sharing a bed, though, which is no problem because we’re neighbours; we can almost hear each other breathe through the wall that separates our respective bedrooms.
When I can’t be bothered to schlep the 30 steps home, I stay put. While I enjoy the warmth of his body next to mine, waking up together in the morning is so much better than the actual sleep.
What I’ve learned from this relationship is that sex and sleeping in the same bed are not synonymous. My boyfriend and I are not cuddle-up-close types, anyway, and we both agree that we have deeper, longer sleeps on our own, free to move limbs this way and that and to claim all of the covers.
On the occasions that I’ve lain awake next to a sleeping body at 3am, my loneliness is far more acute than when I am on my own. At least then I can switch on the light to read, without worrying about waking my bed partner. I have a far greater chance of staying sane when I have seven or eight undisturbed hours under my belt. And for now, that sleep feels far more attainable when I’m alone.

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Why sleeping alone was the great, unexpected gift Why sleeping alone was the great, unexpected gift Reviewed by Ladiesandwomen on October 11, 2019 Rating: 5

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Why sleeping alone was the great, unexpected gift

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